Living with Depression.

Some of you might have noticed I haven't been blogging as much as I used to. It's partly because I'm spending a lot of my energy on general life and when it comes to doing things I enjoy and my hobbies, I have no energy left. Some of it is down to struggling with depression, which I've been attending therapy for. Last night, when my brain was spiralling as I was trying to fall asleep, this idea came to me and I wanted to write it while it was fresh in my mind. So, here I am, at 2am, telling you how depression feels for me, in the hopes that more people can understand it.

Trigger Warning - if you struggle with depression, self-harm, or suicide, this may be triggering. 


My depression comes and goes. Sometimes I feel normal, and like I can do my normal day to day stuff. But, sometimes I feel so low, that I almost call in sick at life, not just work.

I start with

Thinking about how life isn't going as I planned.
I'm not achieving as much as I'd hope.
Comparing my achievements to others around me, or on social media.
Feeling sad and upset most days.
Feeling tearful or crying most days.
Little things make me more upset because I'm already feeling sad.

When I start to feel sad like this, my mind spirals even more. It doesn't help that I also have anxiety and I'm a chronic worrier so that makes things even worse for me. My brain almost goes into overdrive, and I start to notice little things that then become HUGE things, and overexaggerated by my mind.

I then

Can't sleep at night and struggle with insomnia.
Can't get up on a morning because I'm physically and mentally exhausted.
Little things like washing and moving become huge hurdles to get over.
So, I end up doing nothing and get bored.
I feel lonely because I don't get out as much.
I feel like I have no friends because I haven't spoken to humans in so long (just my dogs).

So, because I'm bored and lonely. It means my mind has more time to play with my emotions. Of course, this means things get even worse for me. I start to be self-critical because depression makes you blame yourself for everything. It must be me? There must be something wrong with me, right?

I feel isolated.
I feel alone.
I feel miserable.
I feel hopeless.
I feel unlikeable.
I feel depressed.

Once you get so low, it's hard to get back up. Every little thing you do feels like so much effort that it's easier to just... not do it? It's easier to avoid the depressed feelings than it is to get out of bed.

I've been attending a Behaviour Activation course with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for over a month now. I can see where I spiral and I'm working hard to replace my behaviours that encourage my depression to fester with more positive ones that will reinforce more helpful behaviours. It's still hard. It's still a struggle to deal with day to day.

All while this is happening, no one notices. No one sees my struggle unless I tell them, because online I post happy, positive photos. If people ask how I am, I say "I'm fine" and crack out a smile. I'm writing this mainly as a form of therapy for myself, to get all my emotions out. But, also to show people that it doesn't matter how happy or together you look, you never know what someone is struggling with behind closed doors. More people struggle with poor mental health than you realise.

If you resonate with this post, or know someone who does - here's some helplines. Please, reach out.

Samaritans: 116 123
Mind: 0300 123 3393
CALM: 0800 585858 (for men)
Childline: 0800 1111 (for under 19s)
The Silver Line: 0800 4708090 (for the elderly)

If you are in a crisis and you are in danger call 999.

Fenty Pro Filt'r Foundation Review

Wow, can you believe it’s November already?! After my Halloweek makeup blogs, I took a short break from blogging; But I’m back today with a review of the Fenty Pro Filt’r Foundation, since we all love a good old review!


Fenty is a brand created by Rihanna, and it’s aimed for all skin types and tones as she felt not all women were included for other makeup brands. Because of this, the range of shades for the Fenty Pro Filt’r Foundation is astounding. There are a whopping 40 shades from very fair to much darker tones that other brands simply don’t offer.

I’ve been trialling this foundation for a little over a month, and no word of a lie, I loved it so much I even decided to add it to my professional makeup kit for weddings. This foundation is amazing.
I tend to use the shade 160 but can also get away with 140, or even 180 if I have a little fake tan on. I’m usually one of the lightest shades in most other foundations but there are 6 shades lighter than what I am, and that is just brilliant.


I find it applies better with a damp makeup sponge (I use Real Techniques), and what I like the most is the finish. It blends very nicely and is a good medium coverage. It’s also buildable, so when I want a heavier, more full coverage look, I can add a second layer if I want to.

Fenty claim the foundation is a demi-matte, but I personally find it a bit dewier that a demi-matte, but not completely. I find it a little hard to explain! I have quite oily skin, so it’s certainly not matte, but I quite like it. It makes it look and feel more natural and breathable.

I’ve also used it on different skin types for work now, and it seems to suit both oily skin and dry skin. I wouldn’t recommend it if you have severe dry skin conditions, like Eczema or very flaky skin as it may cling… but for regular dry skin, it still worked really well.

It’s long lasting, and I’ve found it’s lasted on my oily skin for a good 10-15 hours. Which is perfect if you’re going out for the day or attending occasions and events. It doesn't separate, or accentuate my pores like other foundations have done in the past. 


The foundation costs £26 in the UK and I’ve found the best place to buy it is from Harvey’s online. The downside is that it’s harder to get a hold of in the UK, which means you can’t pop to your local department store to have the colour matched. If you’re deciding between 2 different colours, I’d recommend going for the lighter one as it does slightly oxidise after application.

It’s slightly cheaper than other high-end foundations, and for the price, I’d certainly say it’s worth it. I’ve really enjoyed using it, and this post isn’t sponsored (I wish!), I just genuinely loved this foundation.

To top it all off, if you didn’t think it could get any better, Fenty’s foundation is cruelty-free and vegan-friendly. I mean, how can a foundation be this perfect. I’m so glad I tried it, I’ll probably be using it for a very long time now!

Melting Half Skull - HALLOWEEK DAY 5

It’s Friday, Halloweek Day 5, which means this is the last Halloween look I’ll be posting on my blog this year. But make sure you follow me on Instagram because I’ll continue to post SFX makeup and the likes on there. This last look was requested by a friend, who wanted to see a half skull look. I had seen lots of people do various versions of a half skull, and my favourite by far was by Desi Perkins on YouTube.


You’ll Need:
White & Black Face Paint
Liquid Latex
Standard Eye Makeup
Black Eyeshadow
Colourless Powder

I started by using a very small amount of white to map out where I wanted the skull to start and end. It was just a very rough guide so I could get started on the “normal” part of my face. For that, I just did my usual makeup and a smoky eye. You, of course, don’t need to wear any makeup at all, or you can play around with different eyeshadow colours and looks. I did my foundation right up to where I drew the guidelines before.

For the skull, I started on the cheek below the “normal” eye and went around where all the melted parts will be with black. I mixed in some white to create more grey areas, and to give the illusion of shading. I used the black to make the other eye area look like a skull eye socket, and started on the nose and cheekbone. I made sure I worked hard on shading, using white to create grey the closer the cheekbone got to my mouth. You can use lots of skull reference pictures on Google to play around with how you’d like your shape and style to be.

I then used the white face paint all over the rest of my face that was left. I had to do a couple of layers to make sure it was opaque enough.


For the teeth, I used a very fine detailer brush to map out the outline with black. I used any leftover paint on the brush to do the shading around the teeth. I went in with the white face paint to define them and make them look whiter than the rest of my face. I applied colourless powder everywhere, to make it matte and likely to last.

Then for the fun part, the melting skin! I know Desi used 3D gel to create her drips, but it’s not easily accessible and it’s not particularly cheap. A cheaper alternative, that most SFX lovers already own is using flesh coloured liquid latex. You could also use regular liquid latex, but colour with paints or your foundation. I poured the latex into a small disposable plastic pot and used the opposite end of my brush to apply it. It’s important to not use the bristle part of your brush because it will damage it. I picked up quite a bit of product on the end of my brush, and applied it onto the guideline of my skull, allowing it to drip down on my face (do not allow this to go into your eyes!).

Once I felt like the whole guideline was covered by latex, and there were enough drips to look satisfyingly melted, I used a hairdryer to dry the latex quicker. I used a little more of my foundation to cover the line between latex and my skin, so it blended better.



Looking back I would have used white latex and coloured it myself, as the flesh colour latex was a little dark for my natural skin tone. I’m super pale so I should have guessed that really! If you recreate this look, I’d love to see your pictures on Instagram, so please tag me and use the hashtag #BecxHalloweek! I hope you enjoyed all my Halloween looks this year, I definitely enjoyed doing them, and I’ve already started thinking about next years looks!