Why Should I "Come Out" - Sexuality

Rebecca at Newcastle Pride in 2018

Last weekend, I went along to do the pride parade in Newcastle and proudly stood alongside the LGBTQ+ community to show support. I genuinely believe that love is love, regardless of gender, sexuality, or how people may want to identify themselves, and I’ve believed this from quite a young age.

I’m not really one for labels (they’re for clothes, not humans), but I supposed when thinking about the definitions I identify as Bisexual. I might even be Pansexual, I’m not entirely sure myself, I don’t really like having to label myself. If you’re not sure what they mean – Bisexuality is an attraction to both men and women, and Pansexuality is where you’re attracted to any person regardless of their gender or sexuality, so it can include people who are non-binary, transsexuals, etc. For me, it’s all about personality. I never “came out” so to speak.

Last weekend got me thinking about how people of the LGBTQ community have to come out to the people around them.

A pink, purple and blue poster saying Bi Furious

I know coming out is such a personal thing to do, and for some people, it’s an important part of understanding their own identity and they’re very happy and proud to do so. I never came out myself because I always felt like… why should I have to?

In my mind, love is love. Why do I need to declare what I’m attracted to as if it’s abnormal? Why do people not come out as straight? In this day and age, we should be able to fall in love with anyone, without having to declare ourselves as gay, bisexual, or whatever label.

I knew I was attracted to both men and women when I was around 16 years old. I didn’t come out, I just spoke about both genders in conversation – having crushes on both male and female, flirting with both boys and girls and so on. I miss how open-minded and how little people seemed to care in our teenage years.

This post isn’t particularly about anything too deep, I suppose I’m just using it to vent that I really don’t think everyone other than straight people should feel the need to come out as if we have to hide and then declare ourselves to others. Some people really enjoy coming out and that’s important to them as a person, which is brilliant too – whatever you are happy and comfortable with. But if you don’t want to, you don’t have to put yourself into a category or label, I know I don’t.

I loved seeing Newcastle filled with so many people, of all genders and sexualities, standing up for love and seeing people of all backgrounds and ages join in to support the community. It was really moving, and quite emotional. I felt truly proud to be in a nation that’s forward thinking, where people are free to love anyone, where same-sex couples can adopt children and get married.

2 people at Newcastle Pride 2018, holding a rainbow flag.

There’s still a long way to go for a more inclusive society, but we really are stepping in the right direction. That weekend, I felt proud to be British, and proud to be supporting such a diverse and beautiful community.  

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